I look like an extremely professional fashionable woman in an Abaya. It probably took me AGES to look this professional right?
WRONG. I’m actually wearing my onesie underneath it and you will NEVER KNOW MWAHAHAHA
Wanna know another secret? Even though i LOOK like I’m paying attention to whatever nonsense you are saying…..
I AM ACTUALLY WEARING HEADPHONES AND LISTENING TO MUSIC
I suppose I knew that there were two different kinds of people and they behaved in distinct ways. I also knew that my Nanay, the Tagalog word for mother that I used for my grandmother who raised me, wore dresses and she did not buy me dresses. She wore her hair long and I did not wear my hair long.
But she took me to the market and taught me how to haggle. She let me play Chinese garter and jacks with the children in dresses. And sometimes, she cut her hair short. And plenty of times she wore pants. I helped her cook by grating coconut. I didn’t like sitting with my grandfather and drinking, though I did sit on his lap sometimes when he played cards, and I sat on my grandmother’s lap when she played mahjong.
Whenever anyone talked about me, they said kanya, siya, niya, pronouns that did not identify me as belonging to either the longhairs or the shorthairs, the skirtwearers or the pantswearers. I was not a son but a child, not a nephew but a nephew-equivalent whose gender was unspecified."
Start telling the stories that only you can tell, because there’ll always be better writers than you and there’ll always be smarter writers than you. There will always be people who are much better at doing this or doing that - but you are the only you.
Tarantino - you can criticize everything that Quentin does - but nobody writes Tarantino stuff like Tarantino. He is the best Tarantino writer there is, and that was actually the thing that people responded to - they’re going ‘this is an individual writing with his own point of view’.
There are better writers than me out there, there are smarter writers, there are people who can plot better - there are all those kinds of things, but there’s nobody who can write a Neil Gaiman story like I can."
I said it on the Nerdist Podcast, and I believe it. It’s as true for any area of the arts, not just writing. Perhaps it’s true for life.
Advice I try to consider every day. Neil Gaiman is a precious human being and if you write or art or do anything you really should listen to this.